In the game of life, if it often seems like you’re on the losing end of things, you’re not alone. Life can be one giant conundrum filled with ups and downs. When you feel like you’re experiencing more downs than ups, sometimes it helps to get a little tough love once in a while. That’s why we put together this list of 10 harsh truths that will help you grow.

在人生游戲中，總會感覺自己總在經歷失敗。你并不是一個人。人生就是一個巨大的謎題，充滿了起起伏伏。如果你覺得你經歷的失敗多余成功，偶爾感受一點嚴厲之愛也許會有幫助。所以我們總結了會幫助你成長的10個殘酷事實。

1. Life isn’t fair.

人生是不公平的

Life will hand you lemons, often when you least expect it. The sooner you embrace this harsh truth, the better prepared you’ll be to handle tough situations that are sure to arise.

往往在你最意想不到的時候，人生會讓你嘗到檸檬的酸味。你越早明白這個殘酷的事實，在處理這些必將出現的麻煩事時，你就會準備得越好。

2. The first step is always the hardest.

萬事開頭難

Let’s face it: changing bad habits is tough. Research proves it. Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” So if you want to change something, start with baby steps. Take a small action–any action–and grow from there.

讓我們面對這個事實：改掉壞習慣非常困難。研究證實了這一點。中國的哲學家老子說過，“千里之行，始于足下。”如果你想要做出改變，就從第一步開始。做出一點小的行動，任何一種行動都行，然后就從這里開始。

3. Good things usually don’t come quickly.

好事情不會來得很快

Great accomplishments in our lives normally don’t come easy. And if you think about it, would you have it any other way? There’s a basic psychological principle called instant gratification, which means that we expect to get rewards instantly. But sometimes you need to fight the impulses your brain throws at you and trust that the journey you’re on is the right one.

我們認識中的偉大成就都來之不易。想想看，你還有別的辦法嗎？有一個基本的心理學原理，叫做即時滿足，意思是我們期待立刻獲得回報。但有時候你要和大腦中的這種沖動作斗爭，要相信你正在走一條正確的路。

4. Not everyone will support you along the way.

人生路上不是每個人都會支持你

In life, there’s no shortage of doubters, haters, and pessimists. Overcoming this harsh truth is simple: don’t listen. Choose to stick with your guns, trust your instincts, and forget about people who don’t support your goals and passions.

你的人生中從來不缺乏懷疑者、嫉妒者和悲觀主義者。克服這個殘酷的現實很簡單：別聽他們的。堅守自己，相信你的直覺，忘掉那些不支持你的目標和激情的人。

5. You can’t always be in control of everything.

你無法永遠掌控每件事

Listen, letting go is hard, especially if you’re a go-getter. But if you want to continue to grow, there are times when you need to relinquish your control on everything and let things unfold how they’re meant to be. This doesn’t mean your mentality for everything should be “wait and hope.” You can still strive for greatness, but put the work in and then let go with complete faith that the universe will make things right for you. You’ll be amazed at how well it works.

聽著，放手不是件容易的事，尤其如果你還是一個能干的人。但如果你想繼續成長，有時候你需要放棄對某些事的掌控，讓一切順其自然。這并不意味著你對待事情的態度是“靜觀其變”。你依然可以為了成就偉大而奮斗，只不過在努力之后，就可以放手，要相信上天會為你安排妥當。你會驚訝地發現一切都很順利。