Keep Your Dark Side From Running Your Life

太陽和黑暗云霧共存的心靈

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.”

沉緬于消極事物，只會增強消極的力量。

Every light has darkness to balance it out.

有光明的地方，必定有黑暗以平衡。

People can be kind or mean or beautiful or ugly. We sometimes are compassionate or selfish, and at other times we feel safe or insecure, or confident or hopeless.

人們或善良或狡詐，或漂亮或丑陋。我們有愛心的一面，也有自私的一面。在不同的場合，我們或許對自己很有自信，很有安全感，但或許也會覺得絕望，充滿不安感。

Shove those negative feelings deep down like proverbial skeletons in the closet. Put those bad thoughts and desires in a box and don’t ever open it. But you can no more avoid dealing with your shadow than you can avoid using your left foot when you walk.

你可以把負面感情藏得嚴嚴實實的，就像那些不可告人的秘密一樣。把不好的思想和渴望都藏起來不外露，永遠不要觸碰。但是，你不可能永遠躲避著不去處理這些問題，就像你走路時，你不可能不邁出步子。

If you ignore your shadow, it will take on a life of its own. It will fester and eat away at you.

如果你忽視心中的陰霾，它將會永遠的停留，并不斷壯大，最后完完全全地把你吞噬。

Here are some steps to get on the right track.

以下是讓一切走回正軌的一些方法。

Commit to Exploring Your Dark Side

致力于探索自己的黑暗面

It’s a trip that’s not always going to be nice and pleasant. You will find out things didn’t know about yourself, and many of them won’t be positive. You have to commit to the search for truth in order to minimize the impact your shadow has on your life going forward.

這趟旅程并不是讓人身心愉悅和一帆風順的。你不能指望所有人都對你了如指掌，因此他們對你的評價也不可能全部是正面和積極的。你必須努力找出背后的真相，以減輕負面陰影對你人生的影響。

List Your Trigger Emotions

給觸發你不良情緒的東西列個表

Come up with triggers for destructive behaviors, such as frustration, loneliness, hunger, low self-esteem, nervousness, and the like.

想一下能觸發你做破壞性行為的事情，如挫敗、寂寞、饑餓、自尊心低下、緊張等等。